I first started talking about my hair transition in my previous post, 5 Terms to Get Familiar With While Transitioning, but now I’m ready to take it to another level..
When I decided to transition from relaxed to natural hair, I had no idea it would make me feel so liberated. For me, my transition didn’t necessarily mean shaming relaxers, it meant getting out of my comfort zone and discovering a side of beauty I hadn’t embraced before with my hair. Letting go of getting relaxers was similar to letting go of an older version of myself. I made the decision to transition at 21, as a way of coming into my own as an adult and as a young woman.
I got my first relaxer at the age of 9 when my father became too frustrated with trying to do my hair himself. Through the ages, I routinely consulted with a hair dresser and thought I kept my hair pretty healthy because it was long and strong.
When I went away to college in 2010 at 18, I had no idea my hair was in for a rude awakening. With me being away from my hairdresser weeks at a time and also not knowing what the hell to do with my hair, I turned to excessive heat use to solve my problems, or so I thought. Little did I know I was causing so much damage to my hair. And as an end result, I decided to cut it shoulder length in the middle of my sophomore year of college at 19.
Keeping it short seemed like a good idea because I wanted to make a change but something still didn’t feel right…
It wasn’t until at 21 when I was fed up with how my hair looked. Although I wasn’t abusing it with my flat iron like I used to, it was dry, there was breakage, my scalp felt crazy, and it wasn’t growing out how it used to look when my hair was longer. I had been doing my research on natural hair care and thought doing without perms would be the best solution for me.
During this process, I had a lot of trial and error with different products and techniques. I was trying to figure out what worked best for me and felt defeated. It seemed like no matter what I did I just couldn’t get it right. Being a broke, college student, I couldn’t afford to seek professional help at the time so I learned on my own along the way. However, there were times I turned to curly girl sites and YouTube tutorials to get through the transition. But even with doing my Googles, I felt like no one could relate to my hair needs and I didn’t have anyone to turn to guide me on the right path for my hair. I’m hoping to end that kind of anxiety with Transition Testimony…
I’m introducing Transition Testimony as a way to share your experience as a transitioner with readers and myself so we can learn, connect, and help one another along the way. Here we can come together and spill the tea on anything transition related. I am not an expert, I can only speak on the changes I’ve went through and with this we can see what we have in common and which methods can work for someone in a similar situation. I made the choice of going from relaxed to natural but Transition Testimony isn’t limited to that, any kind of change made to your hair is welcome.
There were so many things I’ve acquired on this journey some of those things being peace, acceptance, confidence, new knowledge on self-care, and hair that’s healthy! I want the same for you and yours..
To become a feature on Transition Testimony, please answer the following questions and email them to firstname.lastname@example.org. Be sure to include photos of you throughout your transitioning journey.
1. Introduce yourself with a brief description.
(Name, age, occupation, hometown, hobbies, fun facts, social media handles etc.)
2. What initially made you decide to make your hair transition?
3. How long have you been transitioning?
4. Describe your wash day routine.
5. What’s a product you can’t live without and why?
6. What’s your go-to hairstyle?
7. What advice would you offer to other transitioners in need through your experience?
8. What have you learned from your hair transition?
Don’t be shy! Submit your story and let’s grow together.